Okay, I have a confession to make: I haven't told the world that I'm pregnant.
I'm at 15w5 days.
I still haven't bought a single baby item. (I did cave in on the maternity pants because my other pants won't button.)
Am I weird? Am I in denial? Am I ever going to be able to fully embrace this? I feel like (already?) a horrible mom-to-be. I keep telling myself (and others) that they can pass on the news at my 12 week...no wait, how about the 16 week...no, the 20-week. We finally had to tell extended family because we're going to a wedding this weekend and I didn't want to "reaveal" my condition as I walk in the door looking like I swallowed a whole cantelope. (Yeah, you can kinda tell.)
But I cannot bring myself to step out of the closet. I haven't made an announcement at our staff meeting at school, I haven't posted anything on FB....I'm just so nervous. Maybe it's habit? Maybe it's nerves? I don't know.
You don't have to make a "ta-da look at me" announcement... I think you'll reach a point when you feel comfortable telling more people (one on one or in a group) or just wait for the brave ones to ask you about the bump :-)
ReplyDeleteYou are not weird. It's normal for us not to want to tell people right away. We've gone through a lot to get where we are.
ReplyDeleteI waited to tell people I was preggo at 14 weeks because I just didn't feel comfortable, plus I was starting to show.
And I JUST bought my first baby item yesterday at 16 weeks 5 days. I just haven't wanted to go there yet. So don't feel bad...
Sometimes you just have to GO for it. Make the decision to tell people or have your hubby spread the news if you want. It will make the suspense die down.
Don't worry about what you should do, just do what you feel is right for you.
I only just came out to the world - at 28 weeks. For those of us who experience first-hand just how difficult it can be to make (and keep) a baby, I think it's perfectly reasonable to be nervous about spreading the word. I was the same - I thought I'd be ok at 26 weeks (once we passed the stage where our firstborn was born & then died) but it took a bit longer.
ReplyDeleteYou'll know when you're ready, and you're certainly not a bad parent for not shouting it from the rooftops at the first possible moment. You're cautious. It doesn't mean you don't love this little expected baby just as much as it is possible to do so. And when you finally take the plunge - enjoy it! I'm loving the face.book comments from everyone - totally worth the wait!